Good or bad, it’s impossible to predict what the future holds.
But we don’t want our children to be caught unprepared .
What’s one skill you need when faced with adversity, hardships or when things don’t go as planned or expected?
A Skill for 2020 and Beyond : Resilience
Resilience helps us bounce back from challenges and prepares us to succeed in a world full of unknowns.
How to empower our children to build this character skill , without adding too much pressure?
When life throws any hardship or unexpected twists and turns, do you give your child the quick fixes from your experience or do you allow the child to face it with your support?
Start with trying AngelaDuckworth’s grit-scale
Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences.
If we parents, learn how to look at other perspectives, then we can model it for our children the same.
Let ourselves be aware of what is our control and what is not. Similarly, we can help the child understand how his own thoughts are the only thing in his control.
Let’s look at the problems as challenges to be overcome.
As we see adversities as opportunities to excel, explore and evolve, our children imbibe a similar thought process.
The 7 C’s Model of Resilience by the pediatrician and adolescent specialist Ken Ginsburg, MD, FAAP – competence, confidence, connection, character, contribution, coping, and control.
Developing resilience can help you cope adaptively and bounce back after changes, challenges, setbacks, disappointments, and failures.
The good news is resilience can be learned and taught . It involves developing thoughts, behaviors, and actions that allow you to recover from any unexpected events , disappointments or failures in life.
” But my child doesn’t show any of these characteristics, even though I model it in my life”. a mother of a teen told me. As we peeled layers of her interpretations, she found it was all coming from her fear of society, her preconditioned childhood and she was projecting it on her child.
With conscious parenting, she learned to not only question her beliefs but also become more conscious of looking at her son’s perspective.
Her own evolution, gave space for her teen to explore and build on his own character strength.
She learned that for situations beyond one’s control, she needs to preserve her control by choosing her own response to the situation.
So when do you see other parenting perspectives?