VITAMIN EQ BEFORE ACADEMIA IQ
Did your child get a good dose of vitamin EQ (Emotional Intelligence) while working on their IQ?
Isnt’ academic performance is all it takes to be successful and emotions will definitely fall into place once success happens?
Shouldn’t we, as parents should be preparing him for future success, for living in this world a FLOURISHING LIFE.
“Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge. ”Plato
How many times do we connect with a child’s emotions and just focus on getting work done?
Why emotions need to take a back seat when emotions are the driving force of any and every doing of humans.
A child doesn’t want to do his homework, so rather than focusing on acknowledging his emotions, finding reasons behind those thoughts, and co-creating an environment where the child is motivated to do the homework.
Having knowledge of the child’s reasons to do or not to do an activity, empathizing with his desires, and acknowledging his emotions can be a strong point of conversation.
Most professionally successful individuals struggle with this because at work, people just follow what they say and do it but at home, they find it difficult to imply the same pattern with their child.
They forget that the reason why office people do it might not be just their instructions alone.
if we understand the reasons why a child should do it, it becomes easier.
We are often faced with situations where the child doesn’t have a reason to do or not to do it. At that point, it’s important to co-create the environment and do the work together so that they can participate rather than just instruct and expect him to do the work.
If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. -Daniel Goleman
We, parents, can focus on emotions more, give them language to express emotions, empathize and acknowledge emotions of self and others, create self-awareness.
Shielding away from big emotions doesn’t do any good rather changes the parent-child dynamics big time.
No other relation pulls emotional strings or has an impact on one’s emotions as does the parent-child relationship.
Feel the feelings like waves on the shore, they come and go, don’t be attached personally to it, just observe your emotions arising(however big it is)
As we model neutral observations, embrace emotions as the most important aspect of human growth, we project similar lessons to our children.
What’s your biggest challenge when it comes to navigating emotions of self and others?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence. -Robert K. Cooper